I have an insanely annoying habit of nagging. Specifically, if I come across a link to an article, or a blog post, or something that might interest you, something that has the slightest semblance of you, I have to send it to you. Now.
While this isn’t really the most annoying habit – I’m sure there are worse – what bothers me about it is that I lost the thought behind communication. In these exchanges, I have become somewhat machinated – a google alert for what reminds me of you, within my collective memory. If it exists, you need to know about it.
In doing this, what I’ve lost is both the art of pausing, and of patience. Before I know it, I’ve hit send, instead of carefully monitoring what I send, and how they will receive it. Perhaps it should be sent, but it would be nicer to add a courtesy preface. On the other hand, perhaps I need to follow up more with people, rather than just sending them links. Maybe quality time would be the more loving form of communication?